Have you ever used that phrase at the prefix of a sentence? I’ll give you an example.
“It’s just sad when people are so obsessed with the number of likes they receive on their facebook statuses. They’re so self absorbed in their own lives and are ignorant of things happening on the other side of the globe.”
You might just cut his phrase down to “that’s just sad.” When do we tend to use this phrase most? I think we use it most when we place ourselves in the position of JUDGE. A common area where a person matures is the ability or inability to judge other people. For the most part, our judgment is based on past experiences, a moral compass which sways based on our emotions and circumstances, and our faith or belief system. When I hear that phrase, I get the feeling the person speaking is judging other people and not in a good way. There’s a feeling of disdain, belittling, and condescension. Essentially what I hear from the person, from reading between the lines is, “Whats wrong with you? Don’t you know any better? I would never do anything like that.” I’m sure if the subject of that the “that’s just so sad” sentence would be partially if not completely offended. Is there a way to say “thats so sad” in a way where a orator is truly saddened by the circumstance or situation? I believe there is, and it goes back to Jesus.
In three words, blunt and absolute, Jesus commanded us, “Do not judge” (Matt. 7:1). But did he really mean that we should never judge others? He goes on to suggest that it’s not the act of judging but the attitude with which we do it that God is most concerned about—”For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged” (7:2). You see, God judges us on not only on our actions, but our hearts. His judgment is absolute, just, but also graceful. When he looks at as us, His creation, He sees the beauty before He sees the broken. Do you know how profound that is? When He watches us and observes us, He sees the good in us before He counts our trespasses and mistakes against us. Another way of saying this is, He counts our restoration through Jesus Christ as more significant than any amount of sin or pride we parade around with. That’s just, ridiculously amazing to me.
Back to us; we still find ourselves in precarious situation in terms of judgement. Is it truly possible for a person to feel sadness when they see brokenness or a deviation from the way things should be? I won’t and can’t question the moral standard others have, nor would I ever try. I earnestly believe a person’s moral standards are dictated by their experience in life, and even moreso by God’s great plan for this world. But I know for myself, when I use the statement “That’s just sad”, I wish to be heartbroken over whatever it is. Afterall, I don’t want to be condescending or pompous, but even more importantly, I want my standards or morals to match up as closely as possible to God’s judgement. I want to be absolute, just, and especially graceful.